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Uh, read the posts about a mom whose 14 year old is pregnant. I wasn't allowed to date until 16 and neither will my girls be.
13 is too young, though I was allowed to go on 'group dates' at 14 (but never actually did) Stay strong through the death stares and enjoy the silence while it lasts! I had to laugh about your comment "We are now hated - enduring deaths stares and silence." As a mother of three raised college girls, I had plenty of those stares.
More important than age is self-esteem, the ability to talk with their parents about any concerns, their ability to say "no" to things they aren't comfortable with, the ability to make good choices when choosing friends. I really don't care if this is a "different time." I'm doing the same for my daughters. I wasn't allowed to "date" until I was 16..even then, one or both of my parents tagged along. My 14 year old neighbor/babysitter talks about nothing but her boyfriend boyfriend boyfriend. She's hardly ever free to sit because she's with her boyfriend's family and away on all their church group's outreach things together.
I say "for" not "to" because I love her and I will survive the inevitable death stares just like my parents did. It is your job to protect her and be her parent, not her best friend. Whenever I come home, there she is right after school until dark with her boyfriend until he wanders home when her parents get home. She's with her boyfriend all day long at school and after school, and I NEVER GO OUT!!! I know the movies is a far cry from this for you daughter, but still, you're right, it's too young.
The last thing on a 13 year olds mind is marriage so dating would be out of the question for me - just my 2 cents. 13 year olds are not emotionally prepared for relationships. In our household we see dating as the precurssor to marriage.
In fact they only person I claim to have ever dated was my husband and I was 29 when I met him.
You wouldn't hand your car keys to a boy you didn't know, why would you send your precious daughter out with him? As a middle school teacher I have seen quite a few very hurt girls and boys who have been dating and we just don't want to see our daughter in that boat.
If a young man is interested in "courting" our daughter, he is welcome to do that when she is old enough to be thinking of marriage and not before. At 16 or so......our daughter is mature enough and exhibits the Christian qualities we try instill in our house then maybe...as of now, I don't see her wanting to date.
believe it or not, she will be more afraid to screw up if she knows you trust her than she will be if she knows you dont. I just can't see how a boyfriend fits into all of that. THEN, some of the girls/boys, can just go off on their own and separate from the 'group.' And do whatever, making out. Has respect for herself and is responsible and is open with you and knows, she can tell you things. The human brain, is not even fully developed until 26 years old. A few weeks ago she told me about a certain boy at school who has asked her out a few times, but she has declined because she "knows" how dad will react.Maybe you and your husband can sit down and set boundaries for dating since we can't stop our kids from being attracked to boys and liking them, that is so normal, it now what they do with that that matters. I am holding on for dear life, thankfully I will depend on God's guidance and wisdom to get us through.You sounds like a wonderful Mom, your doing a great job! all the best, Susan I didn't read all the responses, but I thought I'd let you know what we are doing in our household.I'm afraid I don't see what the issue is with four 13 year-olds going to a movie together. I had a full time babysitting job 5 days a week, and he bussed tables, so weekends are when we got to see each other. Once we were freshmen in high school, we did get dropped off at the movies. Sure she'll still think about him and communicate (I'm not looking forward to having a texting 13 year old, but it may happen if texting is still the thing in 9 years...), but the dates are a slippery slope.My son had a girlfriend by the time he was 13, my daughter was 14. I've already watched her flirt (quite skillfully) with boys her age, so I'm expecting this to happen early with her, too. I could go out on group dates at 14 and alone at 15.5. I never had to worry about coming home and facing the infamous "Ummm, guess what? I didn't even try to pull that with my parents until junior or senior year, and even then it was just going out with a "group" and hanging with a favorite guy in the mix without telling them because I wasn't really allowed to date.