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No matter how true that was where I was concerned, I cannot remember ONE speaker or writer offering a word of comfort. Even now my stomach turns at the thought of the sweet smiling faces on the back covers. This is because I long to spare other Christian women the sadness and distress, the disillusionment and depression that I went through for almost 40 years, because I made the wrong choice.
These people didnt have a clue what my life was like - how could they? Are you a Christian woman thinking about marrying someone you are not sure belongs to the Lord Jesus? Somehow have you ended up in that most difficult of relationships; marriage to a non-Christian; someone who has no time for God. I survived but I hope you manage better than I did.
So - since we were constantly pulling in opposite directions - we were DEFINITELY unequally yoked together! If I didnt say yes; then whatever treat he had promised our KIDS for the next day was cancelled. The major thrust of my bitterness was towards God Himself.
And it was behind the bedroom door where the plant of bitterness sent down its strongest roots and really flourished. You see, because I was married in the mid 1950s, I had promised to love, honor and obey.
I knew this was wrong - but I was light years away from being the kind of Christian described in Eph -32a Why should I be kind and compassionate towards him? A close friend once said Ive noticed how protective he is towards you. The effect is greatest with the very first person to both hear the secret and remain warmly accepting after the revelation. To be treated as a worthwhile person, as a person worth bothering with, is like someone being given chocolates and roses, who has only dry crusts to eat and weeds to smell.
Later on, I discovered I loved computers - and that became a real problem.
These kinds of verses only fueled my anger, so I conveniently ignored the other part of verse 32: just as in Christ God forgave you." Bob never expressed any affection for me. Naturally it was all my husbands fault - he was the one making me miserable, wasnt he? And Christ said in Matthew Every Mothers Day (or so it seemed to me) at Church, the message was based on Proverbs 31 - The Ideal Wife and Mother.
Everyone outside the family home saw only the kind, gentle, easy-going, family-loving man. I came to hate this Scripture because it was a constant reminder to me of what a failure I was as a wife and mother.
And people like me who had deliberately chosen to marry outside of the will of God, were regarded and treated as carnal, worldly, second-class Christians.
No matter how true that was where I was concerned, I cannot remember ONE speaker or writer offering a word of comfort. Even now my stomach turns at the thought of the sweet smiling faces on the back covers.